“Sometimes in life if you’re really lucky you may meet someone who actually divides the time into the time before you met them and the time after you meet them”
This one goes out to my friends who all the time manage to pull me up in spite of the depressing errands life puts us through.
“What is friendship?” I still remember that day in school when I was in the 4th grade and my English teacher, Mrs.Lorriane Bridgz(God bless her where ever she is) had asked us to write an essay(in those days articles written by us used to be called essays) on what is friendship all about. In my little kiddy mind as I tried to think what to write about, all that came to mind was Shweta and Shruti who were sitting with me on either sides of my bench. My best friends! People with whom I used to come to school daily, people with whom I used to share my tiffin with even if it was my favorite candy floss, people with whom I could play my favorite game catch & cook and poison & medicine! Strange to see how today these games which we though were the best ever got replaced by cs, truth & dare and the game of dating! Those were the days when the only secrets we would discuss with our friends would be that where we had hidden our toy gun or that Mrs. Maria punished us and made us stand out of the class for not completing our homework! Strangely today if someone always does their homework if any then that would be a secret, because today getting thrown out of class in such a fad! Who knew at that point of time our innocent secrets which we thought we would take them to our grave by saying a simple pinky promise would be replaced by graver heartbreaking issues about crushes, relationships, cheating and the list can go on and on. Oddly enough things which we used to call problems like not completing our homework on time, that your name is on the talking list of the class monitor or how to get your class remark signed by your mother got evenly replaced by problems concerning career, jobs, boyfriends, how to get over a break up, how to break up with you bf without breaking his heart etc. Things that used to hurt us in those days like wounded knees got replaced by broken hearts and betrays. The fact is that the friends you make in life can either make you into the person you are or break your heart into tiny little bits. At the end of the day not everyone who lends you their hand for support is a friend.
“I know how to save myself from my enemies, God save me from my friends!”
When ever I think about the word friendship it always brings me back to the day I was sitting that classroom of mine in 5th grade all alone and crying my heart out because I had a fight with my best friend Shweta and I thought that I had lost my best friend and I would never have friends again. What’s very odd is that it has been 4 years now since I’ve finished my school and I have no idea where this best friend of mine is or what is she doing in life and I have a completely new set of friends. Today with the grace of God I have been blessed with the most beautiful people in my life who I call my friends (touchwood! I tend to get superstitious at times) and who make my everyday so damn special. But then yet again you always have the fear of loosing them because of all the experiences you’ve had all your life. When somebody hurts you, it hurts but when a friend hurts you its hurts even more.
Our teenage years are spent in the company of our friends who love us and who we love. Quite often these friends become the central part of our lives. And then it becomes a compulsion to have similar likes and dislikes. So when this does not happen we tend to change ourselves in order to be a part of our friends. This is termed as peer pressure.
Try to remember the first time you got drunk or the first time you bunked lectures. It definitely must have not been when you were alone. The ugly reality is that peer pressure reaches is greatest intensity just then when teenagers tend to be most self-seeking and mystified. The truth about life is that all the experiences you have good or bad, break ups, betrayals, exchanging notes, the first time you got drunk, movies, popcorn ,late night calls, slumber nights and sleepovers etc make you the person you are and most of the time a stronger person.
“When you long for life without difficulties what should remember is that oaks grow stronger in country winds while diamonds are made under pressure.”
This one goes out to my friends who all the time manage to pull me up in spite of the depressing errands life puts us through.
“What is friendship?” I still remember that day in school when I was in the 4th grade and my English teacher, Mrs.Lorriane Bridgz(God bless her where ever she is) had asked us to write an essay(in those days articles written by us used to be called essays) on what is friendship all about. In my little kiddy mind as I tried to think what to write about, all that came to mind was Shweta and Shruti who were sitting with me on either sides of my bench. My best friends! People with whom I used to come to school daily, people with whom I used to share my tiffin with even if it was my favorite candy floss, people with whom I could play my favorite game catch & cook and poison & medicine! Strange to see how today these games which we though were the best ever got replaced by cs, truth & dare and the game of dating! Those were the days when the only secrets we would discuss with our friends would be that where we had hidden our toy gun or that Mrs. Maria punished us and made us stand out of the class for not completing our homework! Strangely today if someone always does their homework if any then that would be a secret, because today getting thrown out of class in such a fad! Who knew at that point of time our innocent secrets which we thought we would take them to our grave by saying a simple pinky promise would be replaced by graver heartbreaking issues about crushes, relationships, cheating and the list can go on and on. Oddly enough things which we used to call problems like not completing our homework on time, that your name is on the talking list of the class monitor or how to get your class remark signed by your mother got evenly replaced by problems concerning career, jobs, boyfriends, how to get over a break up, how to break up with you bf without breaking his heart etc. Things that used to hurt us in those days like wounded knees got replaced by broken hearts and betrays. The fact is that the friends you make in life can either make you into the person you are or break your heart into tiny little bits. At the end of the day not everyone who lends you their hand for support is a friend.
“I know how to save myself from my enemies, God save me from my friends!”
When ever I think about the word friendship it always brings me back to the day I was sitting that classroom of mine in 5th grade all alone and crying my heart out because I had a fight with my best friend Shweta and I thought that I had lost my best friend and I would never have friends again. What’s very odd is that it has been 4 years now since I’ve finished my school and I have no idea where this best friend of mine is or what is she doing in life and I have a completely new set of friends. Today with the grace of God I have been blessed with the most beautiful people in my life who I call my friends (touchwood! I tend to get superstitious at times) and who make my everyday so damn special. But then yet again you always have the fear of loosing them because of all the experiences you’ve had all your life. When somebody hurts you, it hurts but when a friend hurts you its hurts even more.
Our teenage years are spent in the company of our friends who love us and who we love. Quite often these friends become the central part of our lives. And then it becomes a compulsion to have similar likes and dislikes. So when this does not happen we tend to change ourselves in order to be a part of our friends. This is termed as peer pressure.
Try to remember the first time you got drunk or the first time you bunked lectures. It definitely must have not been when you were alone. The ugly reality is that peer pressure reaches is greatest intensity just then when teenagers tend to be most self-seeking and mystified. The truth about life is that all the experiences you have good or bad, break ups, betrayals, exchanging notes, the first time you got drunk, movies, popcorn ,late night calls, slumber nights and sleepovers etc make you the person you are and most of the time a stronger person.
“When you long for life without difficulties what should remember is that oaks grow stronger in country winds while diamonds are made under pressure.”
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